Saturday, January 24, 2015

I learned I need to make sure that I am good first

I learned that I need to make sure
that
I
am good
FIRST

I used to put myself last
always
I was worried about other people's
feelings
and
judgments

now
I look at ME first
them my husband
then my children
then anyone else

WOW
what a difference


When I would put my kids first
they always put me last
or
so it seemed
and
my oldest

she has anxiety always

haters are going to hate

well

Karen is going to worry
no matter what
she will find a way...



My random thoughts on
what makes a marriage work

Trust
Respect
Love
Honesty
and
of course
Communication


Oh GOSH so much is happening
my kids
applying to school
college
grad schools
so much change

Between all of this
I feel a lot of
anger
anxiety
depression
lack of control

and
there is my worry
so much of my life has been being a mom
I need to find a new career
because
Mine
is coming to a close....

Sunday, December 29, 2013

I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters...

I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters
Doing 26 random acts of kindness after sandy hook
I was devastated when a mentally I'll individual took the lives of innocent people we always need kindness
I thought that from demonstrating kindness would lead to my kids also doing it
Honestly sometimes they are kinder to strangers than they are to each other
It makes me so sad to realize that they have not learned anything
Did I do it wrong
Did I not show it enough
Did I do something wrong when they were young
I am trying to understand
But I think it has to do with what they see every day
Peers bringing others down
Not supporting but happy to talk about others

I'm proud of their kindness to others
I wish they would kinder to each other

I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters...

I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters Doing 26 random acts of kindness after sandy hook I was devastated when a mentally I'll individual took the lives of innocent people we always need kindness I thought that from demonstrating kindness would lead to my kids also doing it Honestly sometimes they are kinder to strangers than they are to each other It makes me so sad to realize that they have not learned anything Did I do it wrong Did I not show it enough Did I do something wrong when they were young I am trying to understand But I think it has to do with what they see every day Peers bringing others down Not supporting but happy to talk about others I'm proud of their kindness to others I wish they would kinder to each other

Monday, September 9, 2013

No Do over

i went to a military funeral today
it was beautiful
in so many ways

the landscape was serene
i appreciated the symmetry
of the grave markers
the simplicity of each site
the rules and regulations
were honorable
and dignified

we all went to a pavilion
for a brief ceremony
two officers accompanied
the pall bearers
with the coffin
draped by an american flag

once everyone went
to their places
someone yelled
Secure
and then the officers
approached the coffin
delicately
removed the flag
by flying it
while held tightly in their hands
then the men
began folding the flag

i remember folding the flag
in the evenings
at summer camp
with my friends
it was joyful
we laughed
we talked
we realized we made mistakes
and would start over
until
we had made the perfect triangle

but
this was different
here this flag represented
a man's commitment to his country
his fight in the Korean war
this flag
actually represented my friend's father
they treated the flag as such
as a person
they took great care
placing the flag
into folds
then one officer stood back
held the flag tight
and started to make a triangle
out of the stripes

i realized
that if he made a mistake
he was going to have to pull it tight
he was not going to get a do over
just like in life
if you make a mistake
you can cover it up
you can ignore it
you can admit it
but you seriously
don't get a do over

this man
had a wonderful life
two children
a son and a daughter
who have been by his side
for months
as he was taken from this life

a long life
that was stopped short
due to illness
no do over
no chance to try again
but because he had always been
a decent man
he was honored
by his children
by his community
and by his nation

as the soldier finished the triangle
of solid stars
he caressed the flag
to make sure it was a
perfect triangle
he saluted the flag
he presented it to the other officer
and then
taps played

again so different than at summer camp
a real tribute to an honorable man
tears welled up
it was profound
it was a beautiful moment

when the soldier then
presented the flag to the son
he was giving his father back to him
it was significant
and memorable

it was definitely a proud moment
a lovely ceremony
pride was evident
everywhere

Saturday, August 24, 2013

why does this keep happening again?

I hate this 
Why
What makes this happen  
Why now 
Why
What is the reason 
The impatience 
The disrespect  
The selfishness 
One day
I think all is great
Then
Out of nowhere 
She loses it 
All over again 
Just stay calm 
Let it go
But she can't  
She goes over the deep end so fucking fast 
There is nothing I can do 
She won't stop 
She doesn't stop 
In fact
She just makes it worse
She needs to just be quiet
Just listen
Just breathe 
She needs to get control 
I can't do it for her
As much as I want to 
She has to learn 
She has to keep learning
She must keep trying 
And not give up
Most importantly 
she needs to learn to be quiet 
and listen to others 
Damn I hate this
I hate it
I really really hate it  
Why does it keep happening? 

Monday, July 22, 2013

After the high of Comic Con, the low of returning home...

Why does this keep
Happening? 
I'm a punching bag 
Always have 
But don't want to always be 
It saddens me 
It scares me 
I get so frustrated 
Just when I think things are getting better 
An explosion happens
Heated
Name calling 
Hate dripping 
Explosion 
Deflated 
Like a balloon
Deflated 
Beaten down 
Like rocky  
The fighter not the bull winkle 
Scary 
So rough

Monday, June 3, 2013

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

PTSD

it's not just for military anymore
any trauma
perceived or real
can trigger a person
and then
fight or flight happens....

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

PTSD

it's not just for military anymore
any trauma
perceived or real
can trigger a person
and then
fight or flight happens....

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Summer is starting and I am numb

That is how I feel
Numb
Nothing
When things fall apart
I just feel numb

I've been hurt so many times

I'm so sick of being yelled at
Being told I'm hated

She's sick
And all I do is help
But nothing changes

I hurt
She hurts
She hurts me
She hurts everyone around her

All we want to do is help her