I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters...

I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters
Doing 26 random acts of kindness after sandy hook
I was devastated when a mentally I'll individual took the lives of innocent people we always need kindness
I thought that from demonstrating kindness would lead to my kids also doing it
Honestly sometimes they are kinder to strangers than they are to each other
It makes me so sad to realize that they have not learned anything
Did I do it wrong
Did I not show it enough
Did I do something wrong when they were young
I am trying to understand
But I think it has to do with what they see every day
Peers bringing others down
Not supporting but happy to talk about others

I'm proud of their kindness to others
I wish they would kinder to each other

I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters...

I started this page as a mom wanting a better world for her 3 daughters Doing 26 random acts of kindness after sandy hook I was devastated when a mentally I'll individual took the lives of innocent people we always need kindness I thought that from demonstrating kindness would lead to my kids also doing it Honestly sometimes they are kinder to strangers than they are to each other It makes me so sad to realize that they have not learned anything Did I do it wrong Did I not show it enough Did I do something wrong when they were young I am trying to understand But I think it has to do with what they see every day Peers bringing others down Not supporting but happy to talk about others I'm proud of their kindness to others I wish they would kinder to each other

No Do over

i went to a military funeral today
it was beautiful
in so many ways

the landscape was serene
i appreciated the symmetry
of the grave markers
the simplicity of each site
the rules and regulations
were honorable
and dignified

we all went to a pavilion
for a brief ceremony
two officers accompanied
the pall bearers
with the coffin
draped by an american flag

once everyone went
to their places
someone yelled
Secure
and then the officers
approached the coffin
delicately
removed the flag
by flying it
while held tightly in their hands
then the men
began folding the flag

i remember folding the flag
in the evenings
at summer camp
with my friends
it was joyful
we laughed
we talked
we realized we made mistakes
and would start over
until
we had made the perfect triangle

but
this was different
here this flag represented
a man's commitment to his country
his fight in the Korean war
this flag
actually represented my friend's father
they treated the flag as such
as a person
they took great care
placing the flag
into folds
then one officer stood back
held the flag tight
and started to make a triangle
out of the stripes

i realized
that if he made a mistake
he was going to have to pull it tight
he was not going to get a do over
just like in life
if you make a mistake
you can cover it up
you can ignore it
you can admit it
but you seriously
don't get a do over

this man
had a wonderful life
two children
a son and a daughter
who have been by his side
for months
as he was taken from this life

a long life
that was stopped short
due to illness
no do over
no chance to try again
but because he had always been
a decent man
he was honored
by his children
by his community
and by his nation

as the soldier finished the triangle
of solid stars
he caressed the flag
to make sure it was a
perfect triangle
he saluted the flag
he presented it to the other officer
and then
taps played

again so different than at summer camp
a real tribute to an honorable man
tears welled up
it was profound
it was a beautiful moment

when the soldier then
presented the flag to the son
he was giving his father back to him
it was significant
and memorable

it was definitely a proud moment
a lovely ceremony
pride was evident
everywhere

why does this keep happening again?

I hate this 

Why
What makes this happen  

Why now 

Why

What is the reason 

The impatience 

The disrespect  

The selfishness 

One day
I think all is great

Then
Out of nowhere 

She loses it 

All over again 

Just stay calm 

Let it go

But she can't  

She goes over the deep end so fucking fast 

There is nothing I can do 

She won't stop 

She doesn't stop 

In fact

She just makes it worse

She needs to just be quiet

Just listen

Just breathe 

She needs to get control 

I can't do it for her

As much as I want to 

She has to learn 

She has to keep learning

She must keep trying 

And not give up

Most importantly 

she needs to learn to be quiet 

and listen to others 

Damn I hate this

I hate it

I really really hate it  

Why does it keep happening? 

After the high of Comic Con, the low of returning home...

Why does this keep
Happening? 

I'm a punching bag 

Always have 

But don't want to always be 

It saddens me 

It scares me 

I get so frustrated 

Just when I think things are getting better 

An explosion happens

Heated
Name calling 

Hate dripping 

Explosion 

Deflated 

Like a balloon

Deflated 

Beaten down 

Like rocky  

The fighter not the bull winkle 

Scary 

So rough

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

PTSD

it's not just for military anymore
any trauma
perceived or real
can trigger a person
and then
fight or flight happens....

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

PTSD

it's not just for military anymore
any trauma
perceived or real
can trigger a person
and then
fight or flight happens....

Summer is starting and I am numb

That is how I feel

Numb

Nothing

When things fall apart

I just feel numb

I've been hurt so many times

I'm so sick of being yelled at

Being told I'm hated

She's sick

And all I do is help

But nothing changes

I hurt

She hurts

She hurts me

She hurts everyone around her

All we want to do is help her

Spring Break, VRBO, reminder to always call the owner

I thought it was a good idea
taking 2 of my daughters
and their friends to FLORIDA
so we could visit the oldest

My middle one picked 3 girls
my youngest picked 2
we all got tickets to fly to Tampa

I found a place on VRBO
booked it

then just a few days before leaving
I decided to ask some questions
but
nobody answered the phone
not even a voicemail
and
nobody answered an email

I contacted VRBO
and found out that I had been
SCAMMED

yep
 out of money
and
no place to stay
me
and 7 teenage girls

it wasn't easy
there were tears
and fears
but I finally found a place
for us to stay

hopefully will learn from this experience
either that
or I will just cry